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Stillness
Five minutes of quiet is the part most men skip and the part that changes the rest. No robes, no incense, no belief required.
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July 2022
One year of putting my mental health first
The origin of MERGE60, republished from LinkedIn.
October 2020
Someone is knocking at the door. Open it.
Two things to notice if you know you are in the wrong place.
September 2026
What do you actually want?
A coach asked me what I wanted for my life and I had no answer.
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Episode 11
Chapter 5: Exploring the Transformational Power of Meditation and Mindfulness
Chapter five. Mental fitness. Meditation without the robes and the incense. I explain how mindfulness works as training rather than belief, why a few quiet minutes belongs in the same thirty as the movement, and how to start without feeling ridiculous.
November 13, 2023 · 25:28
Episode 12
Chapter 5.5: Mastering Mindfulness: A Conversation with Victor Chan, Friend of the Dalai Lama
A side conversation from the writing of the book. Victor Chan, who has written two books with the Dalai Lama and spent four years hiking the Tibetan Himalayas, on what a meditation practice looks like day to day. Practical, unhurried, no mysticism.
November 13, 2023 · 6:20
Episode 10
Chapter 4.5: Breaking Free from Stress: 5 Key Strategies
Chapter four and a half. Stress. Drinking, scrolling, venting and zoning out feel like relief and do nothing. I go through five plain ways to reduce the load instead of numbing it, starting with the hardest one: stop over committing to everybody else.
November 13, 2023 · 3:18
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