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Mindset
Every plan survives or dies on the reason underneath it. This is the work of finding that reason, and what to do with the excuses that follow.
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September 2026
What do you actually want?
A coach asked me what I wanted for my life and I had no answer.
September 2026
Why starting over keeps failing
You have done it five times. It is not discipline, and the fix is unglamorous.
April 2017
The Monday morning challenge
A conditioned belief about one day sets the tone for the whole week.
October 2019
I was scared, but I did it anyway
My coach suggested Toastmasters on a Friday. I joined on the Monday.
October 2023
Five life lessons from Ted Lasso
Five things worth keeping, including the Walt Whitman line the show made famous.
December 2023
Four simple phrases for thriving relationships
I am wrong. You are right. I am sorry. I love you. Saying them first is the hard part.
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Episode 6
Chapter 2: Transforming Struggles into Strength: The Power of Finding Your 'Why'
Chapter two. Your why. Goals built on appearance collapse the first hard week. I talk through how to find the reason underneath the reason, the one that involves your kids, your work and your marriage, and why that reason is the only thing that survives a bad month.
November 13, 2023 · 26:27
Episode 7
Chapter 3: Overcoming Excuses: A Path to Fitness and Personal Development
Chapter three. The why nots. The excuses I come across most often in my work, including the ones I used myself. Why enthusiastic all or nothing starts fail so reliably, and what to do instead when the plan meets a real week with real obligations.
November 13, 2023 · 19:50
Episode 8
Chapter 3.5: Transcending Boundaries: The Thrill of Pursuing Intimidating Goals
Chapter three and a half. The big, hairy, audacious goal. The thing you keep telling yourself you will do one day. I argue for naming it out loud, setting it beyond comfortable reach, and letting it pull the daily work along behind it.
November 13, 2023 · 4:33
Episode 22
To Live Your Best Life, You Need to Answer these 4 Questions
Four questions worth sitting with. Who am I, where am I going, why am I here, what do I want. I work through each one out loud with my own answers, because most men set goals without ever getting to the questions underneath them.
November 27, 2023 · 32:51
Episode 28
Unleashing the Ted Lasso Magic: Lessons on Optimism, Relationship-Building, and Embracing Vulnerability
Five life lessons from Ted Lasso, played straight. Believe in possibility, relationships over results, be curious not judgemental, the power of vulnerability, and the biscuit philosophy. Funny on the surface, and a decent blueprint for leading anything underneath it.
December 11, 2023 · 5:43
Episode 37
How to Experience More Winning in 2024 (cause who doesn't like to win?)
A New Year episode that holds up in any month. Five strategies for a year that goes somewhere, based on the science of how change actually sticks, plus what to do in the week when it all slips and you are tempted to write off the whole thing.
December 31, 2023 · 9:25
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